Even Your Soulmate Will Cause Relationship Problems

Anyone who finds themselves in a dysfunctional relationship will either try to make their soulmate “perfect” by changing them, or try to change themselves to be the “perfect” partner. Here’s the truth: You can’t make a person change. Every person is imperfect. You know what this means? You must love an imperfect person you can tolerate – or even appreciate. […]

3 Choices that Make or Break It

You have three relationship connection choices that can make your partnership amazing or lonely. “Feed and clothe a human infant but deprive him of emotional contact [and] he will die.” – A General Theory of Love Matt and Evalin fight about everything under the sun. Evalin tells Matt, “You’re a slob. It’s not hard to pick up your clothes off […]

A Relationship Built of Dependency: The Paradox of Love

Every relationship involves some level of dependency. But in a relationship built of dependency entirely, a chronic sense of anxiety begins to creep in. Our partners powerfully affect our ability to thrive in life. They influence how we feel about ourselves and what we believe we are capable of. And they ultimately impact our attempts to achieve our dreams. Even […]

Singles and “The Benedict Option”

If someone had told me at the beginning of 2020 what lay ahead, I would have thought they were paranoid and alarmist. Yet in just months, speculation became reality as life changed suddenly and dramatically. For me, the pandemic and cultural unrest — around everything from race to the economy to the election — have been made even more scary […]